How can I make my penis more sensitive

Hey buddy, please keep us informed as to how you go. I think I’ve convinced her to let me buy a fleshlight. My goal is to confine masturbation (or ejaculation) to only 2-3 times a week, no porn, and only with using the fleshlight. Is that what you’re doing? My hope is to resensitise nerve endings that have currently switched off though my method of jacking off and desensitise others so I can enjoy sex with her again. I do enjoy wanking very much, but would like to have a sex life that works with her again, even if it’s only once a month or so — I’ll use the fleshlight in between times. Incidentally, I thought I’d buy the wonder wave. Any comments out there on that would be appreciated.

Yeah Rick I’ve just being whacking off a couple times of week. I get erections now mainly in the morning, and likely while I’m sleeping. While it sort of seems overwhelming when I get these erections, I don’t whack off then. I mainly just stimulate myself once in a while and then just orgasm without trying to prolong things. I spent 20 or so years trying to make myself into a machine that can go forever, and now I don`t prolong things at all. Most women I`ve been with would prefer a guy to get off quick once penetration starts. They start to complain if, after a few months, you don`t start making an effort to last longer.

So I`m done training myself to last forever, and using external stimulation. Just me and my brain, and when I end up getting in a relationship, then I know I can quickly retrain myself, with a woman, to last long and give her pleasure. Its very empowering, I pleasured myself twice in a row a couple of weeks ago, and couldn`t get over the fact that even on the second go, I couldn`t control the urge to ejaculate - this is the only way, and I`m kicking myself because I was so desensitized the first time I ever had sex that I had to strain my brain to make myself orgasm inside a woman.

Porn is evil!

Sincerely,
Hopefulinrecovery

Crikey Rick, you sound like me! I too have a post menopausal wife and sex? …well, forget it. Have to go and pay for it now which I enjoy for the excitement / variation, but can sometimes be a bit awkward when one can’t cum because of having to wear a condom. All this begs the question: why the devil do young blokes want to go down the marriage path when this awaits them? Oh well, maybe discussion for another thread.

Anyway steelworkers101, I have the same problem with retarded ejaculation and I started a thread elsewhere about this issue. I really wish there was a supplement one could take that would solve this problem and maybe I’ll look into the Avena Sativa mentioned earlier however having tried everything from L-Arginane to concentrated fish oil to zinc and ginseng, I don’t hold out much hope.

I was heavily hanging and clamping for a fair while (although have stopped for 3 or 4 months now) and I was (and maybe still am?) worried that I may have done some nerve damage or something.

I purchased the Fleshlight to see if that would help. 6 months down the track it doesn’t seem to have done much (although it’s nice to use :spin2: )

I am now officially envious of guys with premature ejaculation problems! At least with that you can get a numbing agent or something.

So the solution? I don’t know. I’m at my wits end. I would say porn has a lot to do with this…. but what do you do? Not sure if this will help you:

but you’ll know exactly what this guy is going through.

I’ve read your post a long time ago regarding your decreased sensitivity. How’s it going now? Was it like this even before you PE or was PE the cause of everything? If it is a nerve damage then I doubt it’s permanent. I’ve done some nerve damage on my unit because of PE but I fully recovered after months of rest. Nerves regrow very slowly.

It’s not that I’ve lost all sensitivity — I certainly haven’t. When I masturbate, I can have the most wonderful time — whole of body orgasms — I shake all over — even fell of my chair once. It’s just that I’ve lost sensitivity in the right area to enjoy sex when if put my dick inside my wife. Those particular nerves seem to have become less sensitive — probably because of my jacking off. I thought if I only jacked off maybe once or twice a week and, then confined myself to a fleshlight, things might change in time. I really want to enjoy the few times I have sex with her if I can. No, I don’t think PE had anything to do with it. Focussing too much on masturbation was the culprit, trying to see how long I could go for. I became VERY good at it.

Brother, it’s too early to say things aren’t working like you want them to be. Remember, you’ve been jacking off heavily for a very long time and now that you decided to take things lightly to re-sensitize your dick, it is logical to say that it may also take a long time before the nerve endings of your dick “reset” and get stimulated with less effort on your part. What insert of fleshlight did you buy? The regular one and the STU are the only preferable inserts you can use when you want to re-sensitize your unit. The other inserts are just too much and you might not get those kind of stimulations inside a real pussy.

Are the girls attractive? If not.that may be your problem

Its masturbation for sure. It would likely please all guys if it wasn’t, but if you want to enjoy sex Rick, you’ve got to nip this problem in the butt now. Honestly, PE exercises increase sensitivity so you can’t use them as an excuse. Having been there, and still in recovery as mentioned, I can’t offer any advice other than to stop for a week or two then just do the old girl. I think its critical to get out of the crutch of banging one out whenever the mood strikes you, or when you get a spontaneous erection - especially vigorous, fast masturbation - slower, with a gentle grip is going to emulate a woman’s pussy much better - lets face it, most women aren’t tight like we all want to fantasize and even large-girthed men say this is so.

Thanks buddy. I’ll give it a go.

Sorry mate, that’s hilarious. A mental image worthy of a comedy skit. But I’m the same as you (sans chair ejection :) ) in that solo I can have a great time but I have to summon up the powers of Zeus to cum with a condom on although the other day I had an amazing one with a young thing and at the time I was quite relaxed and she was reasonably tight and it was sensational. I’ve just started taking a cocktail of supplements (Damiana, Gingko Biloba, L-Lysine, Siberian Ginseng etc so I don’t know whether this had an effect but I’ll let you know.

absolute_zero I tell myself that any nerve damage is temporary and that’s why I’ve laid off hanging and clamping for a few months to see if that’s the problem and allow healing to progress. My gut feeling is that this wasn’t the root cause and whether it started prior to PE, I simply can’t remember. I wonder whether it’s an age thing too. Perhaps others might comment on this.

absolute_zer0 I forgot to ask…you mentioned the regular and STU Fleshlights are the best..is this because they are tighter? (I’m assuming they’re tighter). I thought the STU was more for those with premature ejaculation problems but I could be worng.

Me thinks I’ve done the wrong thing again and purchased a fleshlight with a wonderwave insert. I don’t have it yet, but expect to have it by mid next week. All the reviews seemed to say that it was the closest to the real thing. Maybe I read the wrong reviews?

Hey, and shintaro, my sex life is limited to myself or my wife. So, condoms don’t come into the equation. It’s just that the “wrong” nerve endings are active and easily excited (boy, are they ever). I’ve tried Ginko biloba and Siberian Ginseng before, but they did nothing for me. I don’t know about Damania or L-Lysine, though. Maybe I should give them a try. If I do, though, my wife will freak — she reckons I already take enough supplements to the extent that I rattle when I walk.

Rick no I’m sure you’ll enjoy the Wonder Wave. I’m sure that’s the one I got. Works a treat but despite the assurances I got, it still hasn’t given me the sensitivity back that I want. On the FL forum the bird there told me to dose up on concentrated Fish Oil (which I did) but alas, no perceptible change.

And I know what you mean about rattling…I’m the same. I’m never been one to dose up on supps but one will try anything in desperation!

Let us know how you get on with it. Oh and don’t use it whilst on a chair hahahahah

Thanks for the assurances shintaro. I guess I have to not wank for the foreseeable future without the fleshlight and, then, try to limit wanks in total to, maybe, once a week or even less (and, then, not in a chair, lol). That seems to be the message I’m getting anyway. That’ll be hard the week after next — I’m in the USA for a week. The temptation in my room alone at night will be enormous.

And given that I often find edging hard to control, I guess I’ll have to stop doing that, too. For a while anyway. Twice this weekend I’ve blown my load when I didn’t intend it (under the pretext of getting the circulation going again after doing some Ulis).

Also, I take fish oil, three 1000 mg capsules with breakfast and another three with my evening meal. They certainly seem to help my crook, arthritic joints, but I’m not sure they do anything else.

Hey shintaro,

Thanks for that cross reference. It looks to be worth a try. Most appreciated. It might take a month (or year) or two before I see any results. Whatever, I’ll keep you posted.