Holding out plus the good feeling

Everytime I read about “ejaculatory control,” they don’t get specific about what you are controlling. My quest is to masturbate to the point of not only “pumping without cumming,” but “pumping, not cumming, and getting the pleasure feeling too boot!”

So, if any of you have tips on this, I will greatly appreciate it.

Most of the advice I have looked up has been “what to do to prolong the ejaculation.” I can do that for hours by not reaching the “10” point(ejaculation), but I also want to be able to reach the “10” point AND not ejaculate while getting that pleasurable feeling of ejaculation. I hope that kind of narrows down the question.