Help with Erectile Issues
First, I want to make a few things abundantly clear. First, I’m not PEing at this time, as I still live in my mom’s house, and it just isn’t feasible for me to keep up a regular routine. You can argue with me about this, but you won’t get anywhere.
Second, my penis is perfectly healthy. I masturbate often, and enjoy it a lot. I have a very good understanding of my sexual response. I know when I do it too much (pain is a good indicator), and these days I only do it when I’m genuinely horny. I try to go for long sessions and avoid quickies unless I’m desperate.
Which brings me to my problem. A female friend and I have been trying to have sex several times now, and I can’t get it up. I feel horny, and I feel erotic sensations in my penis from being horny, but it won’t get erect and I don’t feel good from actual stimulation. I feel this sort of tight, restricting sensation in my pelvic area, like my body is working against my penis. I know this is a psychological problem, as I have difficulty talking freely with my friend about sex and our relationship. She is concerned that I may have this problem in the future with other women, and wants me to seek counseling.
This problem is very confusing. I can feel on top of the world, like I can do anything and have anything or anyone I want, and I feel fine when just flirting or being “normal” with her, but when it comes to something serious, I calm up and have a really hard time talking. She is very attractive, and she has everything I like personality wise in a woman: she is extroverted and outgoing, is never uptight about anything, is very honest, and is kind of obnoxious sometimes. She is almost ideal for me.
We are friends, and I’d like to keep it that way. I don’t feel the need to have a “real” girlfriend right now. I think we would do fantastically as a couple, but I’m not going to force anything. I know for certain that the nature of our relationship isn’t the problem.
Other things in my life are being negatively impacted due to this problem. I’m either angry or depressed at both home and work, and I know it’s effecting my performance. This needs to be fixed. I’m worried I might do something stupid or dangerous because of this problem.
I’m very frustrated, as I’m a 22 year old virgin and would just like to get laid already! I’ve got the perfect partner and the perfect opportunity, and my best friend (Mr. Penis) isn’t cooperating! Now, I wasn’t really in a hurry to have sex before, and I believe that now I am truly ready to start having sex. I don’t understand why I’m having this problem.