Help me out!

OK guys, I don’t know if this is the proper place to post this but I have no idea where it should go. Mods; feel free to move it, not that you need my permission :) . So here goes…

Its been a long time since I last had sex, in fact it will be a year in October, (Seeing that written down shames me…) when I went through a messy breakup with my first and only love (so far) who was also my first and only girlfriend, who destroyed me. I was with her for about 2 and a half years.

So here are my problems:

I seem to remember my erection quality being much better when I was with her, i.e. longer, wider, harder and lasted longer. My erections now are a shadow of what I remember them being and it is destroying what Little confidence I have. i also have far less morning wood or random boners, more or less none these days. I haven’t masturbated with a full boner since probably the start of this year and not even porn will get it to its former glory. Or maybe I’m just imagining it. Is female intervention required to get a full on boner? I can’t really measure PE progress unless I can get a proper wood…

And I’m not horny anymore. My sex drive has been decreasing since the break up until it is almost nothing now. I have no desire for sex, I only masturbate because I feel I should and have very little desire to get involved with anyone.

I’ve come to the realisation that PE wont fix these problems for me, but I’m hoping my buddies at Thunders have some ideas whats going on with me because I can afford a therapist!

So come on help a guy in need!

P.S, feel free to ask any questions relevant.

Thanks - ScottAid

What PE are you doing?

Are you overweight, and do you do any exercise?

How old are you ?

Ziggaman:

I started PE originally at the start of this year, partly in reaction to these problems as I noticed them, partly because I’ve always had concerns about my size. I stopped after a few months due to a nasty rash and I’ve just decided to start again 2 days ago. I never progressed beyond my newbie routine:

5mins hot wrap
15 mins manual stretching
15 mins jelqing

I rarely warm down, if i do its usually in a warm shower.

I’m not overweight, actually at 10st 3lb in weight and 5 foot 10 ins tall, I’d guess I’m probably underweight. I train at the gym 3x a week, working on both cardio and resistance, trying to increase my weight with muscle. I’m not the most dedicated trainer though, i do miss quite a few sessions.

Peter Dick:

I am 19 nearly 20 now.

No reason to be ashamed to have had sex last almost a year ago. And, separations can be psychologically brutal. You just have to retrain what you have with your other head.

Go to your doctor. Explain what’s happening; get checked out. Get a “starter” Rx for Viagra or Cialis. A few runs on that with a partner and your confidence will blossom again and you won’t need the drug anymore, except as a security blanket if you in your situation need to change partners often. New partners make a lot of us very nervous at first.

PS: The Viagra or Cialis will tend to kick-start your normal nocturnal erection pattern again, in all probability.

I’m not really looking for the answer from drugs, if i ever need to, it will be as a last resort. I’m hoping someone can spot something wrong with my lifestyle.

It worries me that before and during (and actually a short while after) my relationship with my ex I was a horny beast and would frequently masturbate without the aid of porn, now I don’t get the urge for no reason like before and can only get near if I look at porn with the intention of getting a boner and masturbating.

Could my messed up sleep patterns have anything to do with it? Sleep can screw around with you body in ways like this right? Or maybe my lack of sexual contact since the breakup has shut my sex drive down (my insecurities about my penis don’t help with that.) Are there any vitamin supplements that I can take or increase through my diet that might help me?

I don’t feel normal.

WARNING: The following advice is neither from experience, nor is it necessarily very good!

You may want to look at what you’re thinking. Both when you want to have an erection and just through out the day.

Thoughts to avoid:
-Oh man come on! Is that the hardest it’ll get?
-Why me?
-Any painful thoughts of old girlfriend.

Thoughts to encourage:
-Oh yeah, I can just imagine pounding that 7.5 inches home in THAT chick! Mmmm
-Hey, that’s one nice derriere.
-Fantasies about someone you find attractive.

I have exceeded my two cents worth, and shall now stop.

Are you around women, within three feet of them on a frequent basis? The smell of women, especially ovulating women is very good for male libido. It doesn’t have to be a woman you are attracted to, although it helps if she’s not on hormonal birth control.

I’d find some socially acceptable pretext for getting up close to a woman. Perhaps getting regular massages would help. Even standing in line next to a woman will work, however. Also you can get female pheromones to smell. I know this all sounds kooky, but I think it will help.

Doesn’t sound kooky at all. There is nothing like the smell of a woman. I don’t mean her perfume, or the shampoo she used, but her. You know where a woman is most fragrant? Right in the part of her hair. In that line of parted hair where her skin is exposed. I not suggesting scottaid go sniffing the women standing around the water cooler at work, but Zane’s right. The scent is very powerful. However, I think scott just needs to find another woman period. Masturbation is no substitute for women. I think once you are with someone new you will see the equipment will be just fine. After dinner and drinks, then you can smell her hair.

Hy. I have the solution for your problem, because I had your problem. Get yourself a woman and move in with her. Why? So you can sleep with her every night and spend most part of the day with her. You can also take some natural herbs to increase your sex drive. I`m telling you that in 2 weeks you will rub involuntary with your dick on her ass while lying in the bed.