Help, Advice I don't know what's going on.
Hello, I don’t really know who to talk to this about about I thought I could come here and get some advice. I am a 21 year old male who usually gets erections just by thinking about sex.
Yesterday I tried to have sex with a woman and I could not for the life of get it up. I have never had this problem and always been a stronger performer. It’s like I had no major feeling in my dick. I came twice while mostly flaccid. I had no control over my cum. I usually can control when and how hard I cum but today was a disaster. It was the most embarrassing thing that has ever happen to me during sex. The woman kinda laughed at me and said it was okay. I was so angry with myself. Here I had some tight pussy that I wanted to fuck and I could not get even a 30 percent erection. She was sucking on my cock and it would not get hard. This mind boggled me. I have never had these problems before.
Possible reasons why it happened:
1) Psychological. About two weeks ago I broke up with my girlfriend of close to 4 years. I miss her very much and feel a foolish to of dumped her and we are currently talking and I think we will get back together. She means the world of me.
2) New condoms. I tried these new non latex condoms maybe my dick negatively reacted to it?? For the past 3 years I was having sex with my ex we never really used condoms.
3) Nervousness. This was the first time I was hooking up with someone for sex.
Why did my dick not perform? It’s not like I was cheating on her we had broke up and I was single. What is this ED curse? When I got home that night I whipped out a picture of my ex who was fully clothed and I was able to easily achieve an erection and cum to her clothed pic. But yet I was with a woman who was naked and could not get it up. Is the mind really this strong over what it wants? Can missing my ex this much suppress my urge to have sex?
If you had a similar situation happen to you please post or share your advice. I really do not want to ask my friends about this situation because I am super embarrassed.
Tonight I invited my ex over and I am going to try to seduce her. I will report back with the results.
Thanks in advance for your help Thunder’s Place community
First Measurement November 1 2009: EBPL 7.5
Current Measurement June 1st 2010: EBPL 8.0
Short Term Goal: 8.5 inches || EBPL Long Term Goal:9 inches EBPL