Help, Advice I don't know what's going on.

Hello, I don’t really know who to talk to this about about I thought I could come here and get some advice. I am a 21 year old male who usually gets erections just by thinking about sex.

What happened:

Yesterday I tried to have sex with a woman and I could not for the life of get it up. I have never had this problem and always been a stronger performer. It’s like I had no major feeling in my dick. I came twice while mostly flaccid. I had no control over my cum. I usually can control when and how hard I cum but today was a disaster. It was the most embarrassing thing that has ever happen to me during sex. The woman kinda laughed at me and said it was okay. I was so angry with myself. Here I had some tight pussy that I wanted to fuck and I could not get even a 30 percent erection. She was sucking on my cock and it would not get hard. This mind boggled me. I have never had these problems before.

Possible reasons why it happened:

1) Psychological. About two weeks ago I broke up with my girlfriend of close to 4 years. I miss her very much and feel a foolish to of dumped her and we are currently talking and I think we will get back together. She means the world of me.

2) New condoms. I tried these new non latex condoms maybe my dick negatively reacted to it?? For the past 3 years I was having sex with my ex we never really used condoms.

3) Nervousness. This was the first time I was hooking up with someone for sex.

Monogamous dick??

Why did my dick not perform? It’s not like I was cheating on her we had broke up and I was single. What is this ED curse? When I got home that night I whipped out a picture of my ex who was fully clothed and I was able to easily achieve an erection and cum to her clothed pic. But yet I was with a woman who was naked and could not get it up. Is the mind really this strong over what it wants? Can missing my ex this much suppress my urge to have sex?

Questions

If you had a similar situation happen to you please post or share your advice. I really do not want to ask my friends about this situation because I am super embarrassed.

The Plan

Tonight I invited my ex over and I am going to try to seduce her. I will report back with the results.

Thanks in advance for your help Thunder’s Place community

GainerGuy

If the ex goes along with your plan and no condoms are involved, I think you will get an answer to your recent performance problem. Good luck!

I think you answered your own questions.

My question is could you be ok if you knew she was getting with you to fuck with you? What about if you found out she liked to make guys slip on their confidence? What if she really prided herself on being a dick shrinking shrew? What if she had two guys bigger and a couple similar to yours? Why should you care? Even moreso why woyld you feel a need to impress someone like this? Go out and bang a couple new ones or get a nice gf its up to you.

The mind is the biggest sex organ. In life, the mind controls all of our perceptions and all of our actions. It also controls all of our bodily functions.

True. And we should not let ANYONE adjust it for us, even if it is for a percieved “truth”.

Ok so last night, I invited the ex over and seduced her. Not only was it super amazing passionate sex but I did not have a single issue with control, power or hardness.

I’m not sure if it’s a mind thing. But I’m sure glad the dick I conditioned from PE is working perfectly normal. I’m also wondering if it was the condoms, a psychological problem or maybe a combination of both. I have never seen my self cum in such a near flaccid state with no control. Is the mind capable of destroying my hardness, control and power? Is guilt a ED curse? I don’t understand because guys cheat on their wives all the time and I have never heard of this happening to anyone before.

Also I’m not sure if I should try to hookup again. I feel like me and my ex could work out all our problems. However I still want to go out and explore a bit because I’m young and my ex and I do not plan to rush back into a relationship just yet.

Also if I do hook up I’m going to test try the condoms in a 1sum with condoms that are latex. I have feeling it could of been the condom. Every time I tried to put it on during that session my dick just went flat. If anyone has had a similar situation where they could not get hard in a particular condom or lost sensitivity I would be glad to hear your story.

I don’t feel as embarrassed or bad as I did before. I was really angry and upset with myself. I know I will never see her again so that helps. Right now, I just really want to know what caused it.

Ideas and thoughts would be greatly appreciated.