Help 18 year old out a little.

Hello Thunders.

I have been in the situation of not getting an erection with a girl.
She is in my social circle, and when this comes out, I am a dead man socially(I had/have high social status, as being very manly,Macho,good looking,successful etc.)
And it’s fucking eating me up inside.
So I am thinking about doing something with it.
I understand that it was mental, because I had performance anxiety/very nervous. This is a part that I have neglected for so long: I am still a virgin!
And now that I had the chance to get rid of my virginity, my dick and drive wussed out. WTF
Most people think that I have banged lots of chicks, Even my closest friends think I have banged a few, because
I have made out with soo many etc, but no! I am 18yrs.old btw.
What’s even worse was that I slept over with this girl, and had a freaking boner the whole night, WHEN SHE SLEPT and had given up making me hard!. OK this is so hard for me because it affects all my areas in life: Confidence, status, inner feeling,self worth, etc.

So Now I a taking MASSIVE action towards never ever being in the situation of not being able to bang a girl.
And I am considering getting Viagra! At least as backup.
The city I live in is way to small, and If I screw it up one more time. Everybody will know.

Since I have covered all the “physical” aspects of my life: (nutrition,rest,exercise.etc)
I don’t really need advice on that part. BUT Mentally I am lacking. If I just could relax, ofcourse it would be easy;D

Could anyone give advice to a kid who has lost his self worth!!

-Mental programming, subliminals,books, personal stories/similar experiences etc.
And certian drugs/supplements, that would give me a massive boner, despite fear.;D

ALL answers are much appreciated!;D

Relax and have fun with it. THe more you think about it, the more problems you will have.

True, the more you think about it, the bigger the chance it won’t work.

I know it can be very tough to get rid of that/those thought(s), but try not to think about getting an erection, think about the love you feel or how it feels when she kisses you f.e.

You are letting your mind blow this way out of proportion.

Since you are so nervous about sex, try this:
When you have the opportunity for a sleep over with a girl you really like (emphasis on that part), set it up with a rule. Say that it is important to you that you get to know each other well first and make it clear that there won’t be any sex that night. Just talk and cuddling. Odds are very high that once you are rested and relaxed by some sleep, nature will just take its course; and that she will enjoy and appreciate your suggestion from the usual slam/bam tactics that many guys use to get laid.

Actually same thing happened to me my first time, However I was on coke which I believe had most to do with it. Your best bets are getting to know someone your going to lose your virginity to, make sure they are easy going, and your comfortable with them.

Oh and by the way, avocet8 is not only the man, but also right about what he just said as well, thats exactly what I do.

All the girls that I have had a sexual relationship with(more or less)
Have had these huge expectations on me! And some of them have stated “you must be really good in bet etc”
"Oh I look forward to you in bed” “you must be huge” .
And my slightly above average penis, shrinks to nothing. It’s stupid, And I hate coming up with lame excuses.

I want to bang the brains out of these chicks. Period. But somehow my brain gets extremely anxious, and sends signals to my body to be in “fear”. This of course kills my sex drive.
That’s why I am considering Viagra/Calais to remove the stress from my illogical brain, so I can concentrate
ON THE BEAUTIFUL girl. But I am afraid of the bi effects etc.

What do you guys think of this??

Yeah Avocet8, I know, I know, but the girls I am hooking up with all the time, Just wants my body/penis.
And they don’t consider me as a relationship material at all. And I am OK with that, just as long as my dick works like a superman!;D

Anyways thanks so much for replies ! It’s great to have some insights, because obviously I can’t talk about this to anyone else!

In theory you’re OK with it, but your body is telling a different story. Find a girl who likes you for you and doesn’t look at you as just a piece of meat, and who you feel the same about, then follow Avocet’s advice.

You’re putting all this pressure on yourself to be a sexual superman, but deep down you really want to be loved and accepted for who you are as a person. Take off the cape and relax a little, man!

The girl that I screwed things up with (described on top=) was a actually a girlfriend material.
But I guess she wasn’t attracted when I suddenly started acting insecure and lousy in bed.
And actually she “dumped” a date we had planned yesterday.And I don’t blame her, It’s her nature. You can tell when a girl isn’t attracted anymore!
She flirted constantly on the net, IRL, and on the phone with me, until the limp dick.
I played all the cards perfectly up until sex! And I could tell she was disappointed.
If I did fuck her the night we were together, We would probably hang out right now!

Cheeva : It’s hard to be a sex superman when you don’t got any evidence or experiences to back it up:)
Somehow you are right!

Thanks!

What about chemicals!

Yeah man been there before. What you do is, try to put it in her when she’s sleeping. Chances are though it’ll be too dry so what you have to do is play with it or eat it out a bit first to make it wet and loosen up then put it in. However, she’ll most likely wake up and moan and groan, shout something at you and push you off the bed. This is ok. Just means you aren’t getting sex tonight so you must move on to the next stage. Wait til she’s asleep again. Sit near her head. Start whacking off over her pretty face, then splurt your juices all over her sweet cheeks. (if she has large breasts maybe you can give her a tit job or just squeeze them with one hand while the other is whacking off, or you could just play with her down below with the other hand, up to you, maybe poke her bumhole if that gets you off)

Obviousley this doesn’t solve your vigrin/sex experiences problem but at least you will have made a good night out of it.

kingdong69, I really hope you’re joking. :noreally: :-Q :BS:

Haha, clever Kingdong69!

Seriously, should I try chemicals??

It not, are there any strong as hell supplements?

Lets assume he isn’t and tell the thread starter not to listen to him.

Rohypnol, GHB or Ketamine are some strong chemicals you could use to get some practice in without waking her up.

Ah, I see. Kingdong is just living up to his location.

Seriously, don’t take him seriously.

Seriously you are all welcome in my location anytime ;-)