Just as an update:
We tried the other night to see if she was using the right muscles. It turned out that she was just contracting her arse, after all… working out her bum muscles for a few weeks. LoL, poor baby! waste of time, now she finds it hard to shit (j/k) :D
So anyways we tried different things and eventually isolated the right ones, (Her whole vagina contracted) but the contractions were pathetically weak and she had to really concentrate and strain to get even that.
So that explains everything. She said to me before that, in the middle of a hardcore doggy style fucking session: “Am I too loose?”
LoL great way to kill the mood :D
I quickly yet temporarily settled it by saying “No of course not”, not wanting to totally make her feel like shit (how would you like hearing the cold hard facts during sex? Especially when it’s not exactly a one-word answer to be giving. There is alot to explain/discuss with a question like that, with any woman)
Then afterwards she said to not bullshit her because: “I can feel that theres not much friction”. Wow, so she was trying not to hurt my feelings all this time?! It would have been so easy for her to just say I wasn’t big enough. How nice of her I thought…
I’ve explained to her about the whole female anatomy, and that the only real difference between tight-as-a-fist and loose-as-a-cow is muscle tone. So she is happy about it all, and admits to being weak and inexperienced (which is true)
So now, I guess, she’ll just work hard on the real kegels, and see what happens as far as her being ‘lose’ goes.