Good position for those who are desensitised.

I am in a new sexual relationship with a girl, and my old fears of not being able to come due to lack of sensitivity, and death grip syndrome resurfaced. I think my previous gf got a bit annoyed about it, she thought it was her fault I couldn’t come so it knocked her confidence, and generally made the sex a bit shit.

Anyway, I only masturbate with a fleshlight now, and try to use gentler, slower strokes most of the time. I had sex a couple of times with this new girl but didnt come, but then I waited a week with no masturbation whatsoever (it was hard) and managed to finish!!

It only took me about 20 minutes, and I was on top (I can only usually come in doggy). The position we used, though, was a slight variation of standard missionary, where basically she put her legs together instead of opening them, thus tightening it a little more. Woooo! I was so relieved afterwards, but my balls ached like hell after not mastubating for a week!

See this 2-minute video clip about an April 3rd Learning Channel show which will address lost sensitivity:

S.P. - I think you would probably get a lot out of this too:

Thunder’s member Yataghan50 has a great blog about how he got rid of his retarded ejaculation by training with a fleshlight.

There is some very good stuff in there, very very good advice. I for one found the perfomance anxiety stuff to be very helpful.

Treatment Regime for Retarded Ejaculation
This blog provides a small insight into my sexual life, which was initially filled with frustration as I continually failed to climax from vaginal penetration. It outlines the steps I took to overcome this problem, which hopefully will be of assistance to others facing the same dysfunction.

EXCELLENT!

What you said about that position reminded me of this articlel - sex positions based on penis size (to maximize both her and your stimulation). Maybe there will be some good ideas for you in it.

Your trouser snake: Whatever size you are, there’s a sex position to suit

Thanks for the links, I’m sure I’ll find them useful. I just hope, because of my recent success, I am half way there!

Sounds like you are doing great — next time, don’t worry about it, just have fun!

I managed to come again after only about 20 minutes with my girl!! I think fleshlight masturbation has really helped.

Blog spot seems to have deleted my site for some reason, ah well.

Good to hear you’ve made some progress SP. The fleshlight definitely helps. On a related note I had sex earlier today & actually hit a milestone- was able to reach just before the PONR wearing a condom, & maintain it for a good 5 minutes, effectively edging with the girl. Had only done that bareback before. Could have cum at any moment, every stroke was awesome … but I got greedy :D . When we changed positions, I lost the feeling & couldn’t get it back :( .

I really want to be able to recreate that feeling missionary style, so I can kiss my partner & look at who I’m fucking (a GF ideally, why can’t I find her? :P). That’s the sexual goal. Your position sounds good, I’ll have to try it.

Give it a go! Coming whilst on top so my GF could see me was one thing I really wanted. I could only come in doggy before, but this closed-leg missionary gets me each time.