Generally feeling "old"

I’m 26…

After waiting ages to loose my virginity (23) due to no self confidence, worries about my performance and just generally being a reclusive individual, I’ve finally got over my body issues.

As a bit of a slap in the face, I think I’ve now got ED (and have had so since roughly the same time I lost my virginity)

I simply don’t get horny anymore. I see girls I WANT to have sex with, but I’m wondering whether this is just a Pavlovian response-I definitely used to get horny!! It causes lots of tension in my relationships as women always seem to be hornier than me. When I do have sex I go soft about 50% of the time- if we go to change position, there’s about a 95% chance I’ll lose my erection.

I haven’t even started on my joints/thinning, receding hair!!

This is more of an angry rant than anything else.

Blurgh.

I’m sorry to post in a 3 month old thread, but I’m doing so as I have/had similar problems and it’s a shame that no one else replied. Does this thread belong in another place apart from Men’s Sexual Health? Maybe it needs moving if someotherguy wants responses?

Anyway, I didn’t lose my virginity until a similar age to you.

I don’t always feel horny around the girls I have had sexual encounters with. Sometimes I just want to go to sleep or go home. It’s like they get their boobs out and I don’t wanna touch them or kiss the girl etc. I’ve not been in the mood a lot of the time.

Erections? Yup, don’t get me started on that. I have the same problems as you, can’t get fully erect, changing positions I lose erections, then comes the condom. Erection Death!

There are threads here about erection problems. I’ve gone to see my doctor, I’ve seen a sexual counselor about it before, and I’m considering getting Viagra/Cialis. Not sure if you’ve considered that too?

There are people talking about testosterone drugs or natural ways to increase the sexual mood with a girl in threads here. Not sure if you’ve checked them out too.

1. Exercise.

2. Eat healthier.

3. Most important, find what is bothering you in your life. There is something that draws all of your energy and cripples you mentally. Find what it is and deal with it. Seek help if necessary. Yes, I mean a psychologist. Don’t just cure the symptoms. Fight the cause.

4. A visit to an endocrinologist to make sure that it’s not a hormone or testo issue is highly recommended.

Yup, all of this.

You should start by going to your Doctor to talk about this. They’ll guide you what to do next. Sexual counselling or getting prescribed treatment.

There are lots of threads and forums online where you will find other people having the same problems as you, me included. It’s not common and you are far from alone in this problem. Just get it sorted with practical action.