Just wanted to pose a question to you guys. As someone that has trouble cumming, I’ve found foreplay can make a pretty big difference. It’s kind of expected that guys should be able to shoot their load just upon initiating sex, but for me it’s just not true.
If I quickly undress a woman in say 30 seconds and start making out, I’ll have an erection. However, it will be a kind of reflex erection, with no deep sexual feeling. At this point I’m only at the first phase of arousal. If I start penetrating immediately, I’ll find it difficult to reach the level of arousal necessary for ejaculation since there was no build up.
However, if we keep our clothes on and make out for say 10 minutes, explore each others bodies, and build the tension my erection is able to go from the ‘phase 1’ reflex erection to one that is really sensitive and ready to burst….when I start penetrating now, it will be much easier to cum.
It basically seems next to impossible for me to have a quickie. Can anyone else relate at all? Is foreplay just as important for some of you guys, almost on par with how many women describe it?