ED - Venous leakage, performance anxiety or psychological problem??

Hi guys!
I’m wondering if I really have got a permanent ED or its just psychological or performance anxiety or venous leakage and of its curable or not??

Please take a moment to read and help me get through this hard time that sucking the best out of me. I feel like my life is ruined but still have hopes and trying to focus on positive and be strong.

About a year ago I met a lady aged 47 and I’m 22. We have been in relationship for +1year. Before that I never had sex, I had a great penis with a shining big head. Super strong and full hard when erections! After a few months of our relationship I started to feel I’m loosing my erection quality and I was already worried for my low timing. My lady used to say You think too much and not presented that’s why it’s hard for you to get erected the 2nd time. She was maybe correct I was thinking much!
Then I left sex for 8,9 months until now. We both were stressed and of course I’m still worried and so stressed and tense. Going through hard time of my life beyond this penis problem.

As I was already less confident so I saw thunders and other places and decided to work on my penis to be bigger. So I did about 4,5months of PE and got almost an inch in length while .2 in girth. The girth I lost back after I did some erected jelqing at 80,85% erection in the last month. Loosing girth made me feel bad and I decided to rest awhile. I stoped a month ago and now I am not feeling for more PE but concerned for my ED quality. I wish to have the dick I had befor I met the lady. I still love her but we are not together anymore!

I don’t so much blame PE, Sometimes I wonder if I did something wrong during PE but then I have a reason that NO I had it already before starting PE so… The only big reason I can see is that having sex with the older lady sucked my sex life. Her body level is different then mine. I’m much younger then her. How do you see this?

My ED Problem: I can get erections easily as normal people but they are like 80%, 90% and my glans does not get bigger as before, they are soft. Feels I push blood in by kegeling and it goes back to the body. I have to keep aroused by touch or like kegeling to keep this erections otherwise I most of the time will loose it in few seconds in normal daily life. Maybe during sex it is the same.

Anytime I touch under the shaft it feels a little sticky. What is that sign about?

I had sex a couple of weeks ago and the 1st time I cum in her mouth and the 2nd time I had an enter course. I had to push or press the base of my penis while pushing in (stroking in). Means bad quality of erection it was.

I’ll not mess any opportunity to got to checkup by a Dr as soon as possible.

I’m a strong young skinny boy who does explosive exercise, jumping, running and climbing etc and having no fate but good muscles.

My questions:
1. Did you understand my problem? Give your honest opening if you think you have the same condition or experience of ED etc.

2. What do you think of the symptoms I wrote above, are they show a venous leakage, performance anxiety or psychological problem??

3. Your advice and opinion and sharing your experience or if you have been through any kind of Ed and how you cured or living with it, sharing here will help me get an idea to overcome my problem.

4. If there is any Dr here please mention so I can Pm him to get help will be greatly appreciated. Because I’m not in a position to get to a Dr easily.

5. Is Viagra or other pills etc can be used for all the life without damaging the dick more?

My English is not so good, hope you understand. Pardon me for typos.

Thanks in advance!

I think this sum it up. That lady, for whatever reason, made you feel inadequate. I think you are predisposed to anxiety also, and maybe stressed with too many targets to achieve. You can’t be perfect, nobody can. Relax.

I’m also facing the same problem.Since I found out my girth was just average I got pretty disappointed.Also seeing many guys here with bigger girths gives me the imperssion that there are so many more out there.Thinking about someone making my girlfriend more sexually happy destroys my head.I remember last summer I had no problem at all with my erections.I could stay as hard as I wanted but now after a while I just get floppy.

Marinera yes I do feel inadequate but maybe thats not the problem and also just simply telling someone to relax I dont think will solve the problem,its not so easy as it sounds.Ive tried many times but I just cant get it out of my mind.

It sounds harsh but there are only two solutions.
Make your dick bigger to the point you stop worrying or learn to live with it.
Neither are particuarly easy, that’s life.

im in a relationship.I dont think that she has enough pacience to wait for my dick to grow so i can have sex with her also about the second think do you think discussing the issue with her will solve the problem?im very open to her and.she is also. I care very much about her and thats why im conserned

Growing your dick won’t solve the problem, there always will be somebody bigger out there. And anyway the anxiety for size is just a symptom of something else.

Disscussing it could make things a lot worse.
If you have real self confindence then it doesn’t matter what someone else thinks but if you don’t any small comment could eat away at you.

How would you feel if she says she’s had much bigger but it’s you she cares about ?
Until you start to have the attitude that there’s nothing wrong with anyones bodies and we’re all different and equal then you’ll always be at the mercy of other peoples comments and your own thoughts, it’s just not worth it.

I’ve seen this in people in many areas of life, they either learn to say “fuck it” or it eats them up, your choice.

I’m agree with you in this sentence, It’s seems the right way to give no fuck to anybody opinion about you otherwise you will be fucked up.

My problem is not about the size anymore but errections. I’m trying to learn to give no fuck to others and their openions.

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She always says your size fits me and I’m a little above ever age. Sometimes I also feel she was a nacassist.
Well! Do you think I have Venious leak or psychological problem??