I think I may have a mild leak. When having sex I almost always lose it, same with masturbation. Very occasionally though, and after going for ages it gradually builds, and sometimes I can achieve a pretty good erection inside a woman, if I am particularly excited and relaxed. Would this be possible with a leak?
I don’t know for you. However, when I went onto HRT about 6 or 7 years ago (I’m 63), I discovered I could get it up at will, but the EQ was generally poor — just like you’ve described wotsallthisthen. My doctor described it as a “leak”. He didn’t prescribe it, but I put myself onto L-Arginine and that solved it all. He said there was no solution.
I’ve learned that L-Arginine, though, MUST be taken on an empty stomach and you must not eat for at least 10 and preferably 15 minutes afterwards for best effect. Now my EQ, including morning woodies, are fine. In short, I’m very happy with it all. I take a level teaspoon before breakfast and the evening meal.