Do I have anorgasmia?
Ah, I posted about this back in May, and believe me it’s been 3 months. Before I feared it was my girlfriend at fault (we are first-timers), but she has gotten into it.
Now all of you imagine having sex 40+ times (500miles apart during this summer), and never having orgasmed once. Horrific yes? It’s my sad reality and I’m being crushed by it. It’s getting harder and harder to keep moral when there is no solution in sight.
I’ve been to 2 urologists, one specializing in sexual dysfunction. They’ve somehow ruled out nerve damage (although I barely feel intercourse or anything down there), and prescribed me yohimbine. The irony is that that Long’s Drugs has stopped carrying yohimbine and I’m trying to contact the urologist to find a place that does.
Of course, when he prescribed me yohimbine, it was a long-shot. Apparently I fall into a very rare category of men and an even rarer one for young men. The other treatment he suggested was to use a vibrator and enter when I’m about to climax. I’d rather not use a toy, but I may go buy one.
I’m still afraid it’s something physical because I barely feel anything when she gives me head (maybe mild suction) and barely feel anything while I’m inside her.
I really don’t know what to do. Ha, I know how women feel. My girlfriend orgasms easily with my hands (vaginally too!) and might have 5 or 6 during a session, but I cannot come once. Sometimes I go soft from the lack of sensation. That’s usually when I start using my hands or mouth and feeling her come gets me hard again, but usually for only a short time. This has been incredibly disappointing and incredibly, unimaginably frustrating.
I guess I’m just looking for a little support. It’s getting to the point where I feel that strong urge to fuck someone less and less. I don’t want to kill my sex drive before I’ve had any sex life.
Anyone else experience this? And if so, is there any end in sight?
I’m thinking there must be more to this because the last strong orgasm I’ve had was September 2004 (when I was still 18). That actually shook me. But now any orgasm I’ve had has been piddling, and I find masturbation unsatisfactory. I’ve read up on technique and realized that I used an atypical one when I was younger. Some urologists believe that atypical masturbation can lead to anorgasmia (the inability to orgasm).
I’ve tried different techniques and it seems like I’ve never been able to orgasm from glans stimulation. This must have something to do with it. I’ve also quit porn (I don’t need porn to orgasm).
What to do? It’s depressing me and killing my sex drive. The doctor’s aren’t helping. My plan of action is to try the prescription yohimbine and/or buy a vibrator. I’m already losing hope.