Difficulty achieving and maintaining an erection in my late 20s
It’s been quite a while since the last time I posted, so I’ll give you a quick update. For the past few months, I haven’t been PEing at all. I don’t have any new gains to report, but then again, I wasn’t expecting any since I’ve put PE on the backburner. I started a new job and it brought along some new stresses that I’m not used to. I do plan to get back into PE *very* gradually, but I’m writing this post for a different reason.
I met a girl and we’ve been dating for the past month or so. She is a fairly conservative girl who wants to take things slow, and I’m totally fine with that. There are times when we make out (read as “passionately kiss”) for an hour or more. In the past week, we’ve progressed a bit further. However, herein is where the problem lies.
I’ve been having difficulty getting and maintaining an erection. On the first occasion, I couldn’t get hard at all. On the second occasion, I achieved a partial erection; I whipped off my pants in about 4 seconds and started stroking my penis to get a full erection. But the more I stroked, the more flaccid my penis became. I was extreeeemly embarrassed after both encounters. She kept thinking that it was her fault in one way or another, but I reassured her it that it wasn’t.
After much reading on TP, I realize that there could be many factors involved (stress, performance anxiety, low testosterone, poor health, etc.) The majority of my erections have come from watching porn. Even though I’ve been limiting myself to masturbation/ejaculation to only 2-3 times per week, I’ve noticed that my overall libido and general “horniness” has diminished as well. Between the months of September to January, I was lifting weights and walking on the treadmill three times a week each. But, I had a slight neck/back injury that set me back and I haven’t gotten back into my workout routine. I eat a healthy diet, and I only pig out on junk food once a week at most. I don’t drink soda (only water) and I rarely drink alcohol. In order to cope with some of the stress from work, I do, however, smoke weed. Technically, I don’t “smoke” weed, but instead I vaporize my weed using something called an Iolite. I usually vape once a day in the evenings before bed to help me relax and fall asleep.
I’m almost embarrassed to say this, but I’m in my late-twenties and I have never had a physical done by a physician. I have an appointment set for tomorrow (more of an intro/meet-n-greet) and another appointment next week for an actual physical.
Here is what I plan to do:
1. I’m cutting out porn completely. I think that over the years, it has psychologically affected me to the point that a woman’s real touch is not enough to give me an erection (which is quite sad).
2. I’m quitting weed. I’ve quit before for over an 18-month period, so I know I will have no problems doing so. Although it helps me relax and I’m smoking it in the most “healthy” way possible, I realize that using drugs to alter my mood can only be masking my true problems.
3. Next week, I’m going to start to work out again. I plan on doing body-weight exercises 3 times a week (pushups, squats, lunges, planks, pull-ups) as well as some cardio on the treadmill 3 times a week. I know that exercises that focus on the leg muscles aid in the production of testosterone, and help to increase circulation. Also, it will help me to relieve some of my stress.
4. I plan on taking a few supplements. I’m going start off by taking a multi-vitamin, 2-3 grams of L-Arginine or AAKG, and some zinc. Down the road I may add in some Gingko Biloba and/or some ginseng, but I’ll stick to the first three for now.
Here are my questions/concerns:
1. Will doing all these changes at once be more harmful than good?
2. What sort of questions should I ask my doctor?
3. Are there any tests that I can ask him to do (i.e., testosterone levels, etc.)
4. Should I ask him to refer me to a urologist?
Any feedback, comments, personal experiences or general advice would be greatly appreciated.
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