I’ve had a problem now with not being able to make my girlfriend orgasm. I’ve tried just about everything physically possible, I’m thinking a good part of it has to do with the psychological aspect, I really don’t understand it. My girth is lacking a little bit so that may contribute too.
Anyways, she and I had problems because even REALLY early on into the sexual aspect, she’d fake orgasms, and would do it repeatedly even after I said I would rather her not because it just made me feel worse. She kept giving me the “I just wanna make you feel good, what you don’t know won’t hurt you” card.
So then things got a little better and she seemed really into the sex we were having, except last night she made a comment along the lines of “sex doesn’t really feel that good anyways.” When I called her out on that, she said she “didn’t really feel anything but a sore/dull friction after entering her”. I thought about this, thought maybe it had to do with my size or something. I just don’t get it- I’m not that small (though I do want to improve, that’s why I’m here), and I’ve tried all types of positions, speeds, you name it, and she says she doesn’t really get any pleasure except in that extra-sensitive area right in the entrance? Is that normal?
When I told her how much that bugged me, especially because she never told me, she said “well I just love the intimacy and the way you are when we’re having sex, isn’t that good enough?”…uhh…no.
So I don’t know if it’s something with her, or something with me, or if she’s lying (we’ve been fighting lately too about other things). It’s just quite a hit to the ego to know that you’ve been having sex for a while and your partner “hasn’t even really enjoyed it.”