Controlling ejaculation

Ok. Could you go into more detail about this please?

Regards

I mean in terms of strokes and pace

Could someone please do a plan for this, I really want to overcome this.

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You’re addicted to ejaculating. Treat it like an addiction because that’s what it is. As long as you have a helpless attitude, you won’t get anywhere. Man up like I said before, and control your mind and your body. How about this for an idea: don’t jack off for a week and don’t touch yourself. WOW! There’s an idea. You are acting like you can’t keep your hands off your dick. Once you learn some self-control, then you can apply that to your problem with premature ejaculation.

A wise sex therapist once said (on the Victoria Zdrok radio show): “There is no such thing is premature ejaculation. Orgasm will come when it’s inevitable. It’s only premature of one partner stops trying to please the other before he or she has had enough.”

So I say just go at it. If you climax before your partner, resume licking, tickling, sucking everything in site until she has had enough of that or you’re ready for more penetration.

-Ron

We’re “talkiing” right here and you’re doing fine with it. Hang in there.

Did you say you were circumcised? I have found that since I restored my foreskin the whole ride is just so exquisite and luxurious I’m in no hurry to get to a big finish.

-Ron

And learn to relax!! The more you stress about it and think about how fast you’re going to cum and how inept you are, the worse it’ll be. Sexual intercourse should be a journey. Enjoy all of it. Talk to your partner. Enjoy the moment. And I’ll concur with the others who’ve suggested that you learn some control techniques, like edging, and discipline yourself to stop thinking that orgasm/ejaculation is your only goal.

So true! I’m in the 10th month of my restoration journey, and the sensitivity of my cock has increased a hundred fold. Thanks Ron and TLCTugger!

Quick fix?

No

When I was a young lad I was a 3-5 minute guy. I didn’t know any better until I read some random article in playboy, with no technical advice, just that a man should be able to. But even after that I just knew better, didn’t act better. Now, I drank a lot and when I drank I would last and last, so it wasn’t really a problem. Then I quit drinking everyday. It actually wasn’t until I read about edging here that I actually practiced it. It took about 3 months to really master it. And now I control my cum. That means if she wants to give me a 3 minute blow job in the dressing room I can get there. And if it’s a stay in bed and fuck all Sunday kind of day I can hold out as long as I want. Riding that edge for half a day and then cumming makes it pretty powerful.

Invest the time in the mastery of self. It will only reward you in all aspects of your life.

The trick is to keep your bc/pc muscle relaxed and keep you buttocks relaxed. An orgasm is about tension. When you feel that urge to just pump and finish it’s the tension that creates all that. So keep the parts of the body related to orgasm relaxed and you will not cum. Simple. And when you want to cum just tense those areas and voilà, and orgasm will happen in minutes.

Good luck

I agree with some of you guys. Stop stimulated your self when you sensed the urge to ejaculate. Practice is the key. Anyway below attachment are some doc about edging. Hope it will help. Wish you luck.

matutinal_euphony - Its not im addicted to ejaculation is just i just cant control it i have a strong urge to just finish quick. I can keep my hands off, the point that im stressing is that i cant control the ejaculation which means things finish quickly.

TLCTugger- Good idea but I have broke up with my partner so thats not really an option. Yes i am circumcised.

clgp7- I do understand what your saying but when i lose control i be put of with doing the edging exercises, i cant last more then 5-10 mins, the whole experience is just awful.

tootyfisty- when im about to ejaculate i squeeze my buttocks trying to control the urge to ejaculate doesnt work, kegel exercises i cannot do.

Thanks,

will give it a read.

Jabz, I know it’s already been said but sometimes you need to hear things a few times. It’s gonna take practice. This may be hard to believe but your mind is more powerful than your cock. I would try masturbating and stopping just when it starts to feel real good. Don’t let yourself get so close to orgasm. After 2-3 weeks of this, let yourself get a little closer.

You also need to tell yourself you can do this. Once you change your perception your reality will change also.

Ok,

I have tried but have failed miserably, but i wont give up, can the mod make this a sticy thread as i believe there are many men who have the same problem.

In this thread could we discuss techniques, plans, and upload videos and pics so that people can share their methods as how they can overcome this.

Regards

I agree with matutinal. You seem to have a serious lack of discipline and self-control.

If you blow too fast, go slower or closer to the base where there’s less sensitivity. For a start, you’re probably best of trying not to get close to ejaculation all together. So find a way to stimulate yourself minimally (like rubbing the base or something) and work yourself up from there. My suggestion would be to set a goal in terms of time, and then do whatever it takes to get through that without shooting - even if it means only actually touching your dick 20% of the time. Seriously, when you get the “urge to just finish quick”, just take your damn hands off!