Sounds exactly like my predicament. Don´t wanna steal your thread here, just give my view on a similar problem.
Before PE I had an erection level that was 10/10, every time. Jelqing and moderate pumping always make my erection level drop in the long run. So jelqing is not an erection enhancer for all of us. I also have a porn/wanking problem. And I use tobacco which is an erection killer in itself (never noticed anything before though). So I need to fix all of this. Now. As I am dating again after 12 years marriage. Just terrible when you get a sexy woman in bed and it does not work. I used to say that I needed anti-Viagra as I was easily aroused and always had raging hardons that could last forever, and I could get it up quickly after coming. Now I need Viagra. Ain’t life a bitch?
I am also so desensitized that I can fuck for hours (when erection is fine, which happens to). Used to be cool to last long but this is getting ridiculous. Just annoying. Forget blowjobs, I need an industrial vacuum cleaner.
Short run: Viagra and Cialis. I am not giving up sex and I date between 1-4 women a week. (Yeah I know. I am a man whore. But I just wanna have some fun again for a while)
Long run: Stop all PE, wanking, porn, nicotine
1) Erection quality is much more important than size. 2) Size is not that important for women as it is for men. Normal or above normal and PE is unnecessary. I was going for porn star size as that looks cool. 3) Personal lesson learned. I have a big dick :) I never thought so, but I compare to Mandingo and John Holmes. The women I meet are in consensus, so I just lost all motivation to become bigger.
So one problem solved, another one created…(both are/were in my own head btw)