Be careful out there. STDs are no joke!
I’ll try to keep this short. I lost my virginity back in November 2014. At 27 years old I thought it was about time. We were friends with benefits but on a psychological level sex without love really got to her so she would keep flip flopping. “I can’t do this anymore.” Then sometime later “hey I’m horny.” And so it would go back and forth. This frustrated me greatly. More than once I thought it was over for good. During one of those “off” times I found and met up with a swinger. I saw her several times total. A few weeks after losing my virginity I had what I thought were Chlamydia like symptoms. Went and got tested. Came back negative. I was given antibiotics, it cleared up, and because of the negative result my FWB and I thought it was a one off event and we continued having sex. For months I was symptom free, and to this day I do not know if I got it from the swinger or my FWB. I’m guessing the FWB since she had a very strong smell from the beginning. After she went a loooong time with not wanting sex, I met up with someone else on Plenty of Fish. Not long after I had symptoms of Chlamydia again. I don’t know if it had lain dormant that whole time or if I got it from the new girl. Was tested again at the same place. Negative again. Got antibiotics and it cleared up. Once again thought I was just unlucky and that it was a one off occurrence and me and the new girl continued having sex. Only this time it came back. Had to go to another place to get tested since the old one refused to see me anymore. This time it was positive. I and my partner both got treated. This wasn’t the end however. Later on I started feeling a discomfort in my pelvis and I constantly had to go to the bathroom. The diagnosis? Prostatitis. The Chlamydia had developed into a secondary prostate infection. I was given a 30 day course of antibiotics. I have a few days left and symptoms are non-existent. It’s been a long road but I think I’m finally out of the woods.
My partner uses the most effective known form of female birth control, we have both been treated and are now Chlamydia free, and we enjoy a relatively worry free sex life. But let me tell you, STDs are no joke. They’re expensive to treat, they interfere with normal life, and for people who are inclined to worry you start becoming hyper aware of everything that seems out of the ordinary with your body wondering if it’s related to some undiagnosed STD. The last two months or so when the symptoms resurfaced have been a literal hell on Earth. At times my fear was so intense that I would just sit or lay on my bed staring blankly, unable to do anything.
Only have sex with one person at a time. If she is using birth control, make damn fucking sure she doesn’t have anything! I wish I had been more careful. For those of you on these boards who are virgins or are not sexually experienced, take note! You will save yourself a world of stress if you just be careful! I wonder every so often how many years of my life are now gone due to stress. Well so much for being short, but that’s that.