Coming Across Gay When Straight
Hi everyone! I’m 26 yo. I have a few problems.
1. I don’t have a problem scoring women to bang. But I can’t seem to convert any to a gf. They just want to bang me and go. I have gone on dating websites and I get hardly no replies. Therefore I end up on tinder or something as I don’t know how else to meet women. My friend says keep banging I’m lucky but honestly its a bit sad because everyone I know has a gf/bf/wife/husband etc and I have no one still. Then I’m told it will come in time / when I’m not looking etc but honestly I doubt it.
2. I am always told I’m handsome but I fear the ‘pretty boy looks’ may make people think I’m gay (nothing wrong with gay people, but I know I’m not). I don’t understand what to do to make myself look more straight.
a) I gym and swim and am fit overall. I’m not some bodybuilder steroid guy but I’m not small/lean either so my muscles are noticeable in a shirt for example. In the gym sure I sometimes see guys bodies and go ‘damn I need to work harder I want to look like that’ but never anything like ‘I want to bang him’.
b) I genuinely love eating pussy. Don’t care if I don’t bang her but eating her out and touching tits really *recally* is something I like. But when having sex I’m not exactly going to tell her ‘I love women’ because I don’t see how that is relevant… if I’m with her isn’t it obvious? Don’t think I need to ‘say I’m straight’ lol.
c) I checked with a random sample of people e.g. doctors, and I sound normal, speak normal, no lisp or anything for anyone to think I’m gay (some gay guys speak more like women and flick their arms, I do none of that).
d) I’ve tried growing my facial hair, but then I actually get more comments about being gay/bi lol, and so on.
e) I tried changing my clothes style also to dress more boring and manly but no luck there either. I usually just wear hoodie, jeans, trainers, nothing fancy. Also cut my hair pretty short, like army type, nothing fancy like gel or wax, literally just shower, bit hair dry so I don’t catch a cold, and I’m done. I won’t lie and say I don’t take care of myself and hygiene/how I look but I don’t see what is wrong with this.
3. If I really have to think why people think I’m gay this are the reasons:
a) If someone is nice to me, I’m very nice back. I don’t walk around as an a$$hole but if someone is to me I have no problem being one back :)
b) I groom myself, body hair and all, but I always have. Don’t exactly shave my legs or anything but trim almost everywhere and don’t see how this is a bad thing.
c) Laser hair removal for back and shoulders - mostly because I find it hard to groom there because I’m ‘big’ and its hard to reach there. Also several women I’ve been with seem to appreciate a smooth back and shoulder not some hairy beast. Even then, they would have no idea its laser hair removal, just that its smooth.
d) Not into sports or cars. But then I’m not into fashion or anything either. I like TV, movies, tech, PE :D , gym, swimming etc.
e) I have no dad and I’m the oldest/only guy in the family so maybe people think I’m weak or not manly enough because I have no male role model. But this is not my fault I have no dad. Sometimes it does scare me that if something happens to me / I have guy questions I have no one to ask but no ones life is perfect anyway and I managed ok so far.
Any advice for me please? Confused what to do.
Last edited by dinogoesrawr : 01-23-2016 at .