Maybe there was some bad phrasing on my part. I guess the thing I was trying to get across but didn’t succeed with is that even if something has an initial physical basis, so jelqing in this case, the problem doesn’t necessarily remain a physical one. So jelqing causes a physical problem with erections, this causes anxiety and depression, then - even if the physical problem no longer exists - the anxiety and depression are enough to cause continuing problems on their own.
I’m not suggesting that this is the case with you but it is not an unusual course for other problems and it’s super hard to recognise in oneself.
Four years is an awfully long time and I’m not surprised that you have given up hope. Who amongst us could be strong for this period of time. It’s also the kind of time in which a problem can seem more and more complex and insoluble.
So, even if you feel like there’s no chance that you could be impacted physically by mental processes but you do accept that you are depressed and anxious, then it makes sense to try to deal with the depression and anxiety.
There is a good starter course run on stress (and thence depression and anxiety) in many parts of the NHS. It’s not a group therapy thing or anything horrible it’s just a series of seminars. You can download the course material from here:
Though I can’t say I agree 100% with the approach in the course, it does supply a lot of information that you may find useful and stresses CBT as a way of dealing with stress, depression and anxiety. I’m sure a lot of the concepts will be familiar to you due to the medical interaction you’ve had over the last four years but it may help you talk to people and understand what boxes they are putting you in and whether you feel you fit or not.
No it was my fault I mis-read your post and I whilst completely agree the idea that theoretically parts of this problem could be perpetuated by a mental state I really struggle with the idea that almost complete sensitivity loss could. But then when you analyse it more, anxiety could lead to tension in the pelvic floor which could in turn be crushing a nerve which leads to sensitivity loss. This is of course all theorising.
I have been on anti depressants (ED is not a side effect of this particular drug) for 2 and a half years now and have been seeing a therapist and she has referred me to a psychiatrist so I am tackling the mental side of things as it is the only thing I really have to go at.
But I just find it almost impossible to believe that should I free myself of depression and anxiety (is there such a thing as a person without any kind of stress or anxiety in their life?) that one day I will wake up and my penis will have full sensitivity, be an inch longer and half and inch wider than it is now and no longer “firm” and be in full working order erection-wise.