My Wife Throw away My Vacuum Pump

I am 7x5.7 inch or 18x14.5 cm and I know that I am bigger than average.But I want more girth for my ego.

I don’t do jelqing because I don’t like it and prefer pumping that is a passive exercise.

But my wife don’t like that and throw away my pumping device ;)

She think that lustful guys with sexual deviance use from pumping !

Also she most have clitoral orgasm and prefer clit stimulation and I guess cock size is not matter for her and she don’t want more girth.even she never say do pumping before sex!

Please advise me …

If she is correct, she married one, you can’t change that, she have 2 options: accept you or leave and seek another man or die alone.

All women are like that, women can only achieve orgasm through clitoral stimulation. In my opinion, as her desire you should not pump before sex, but another time of the day.

I think you two need to talk, honest talk.

I don’t pump before sex.She have problem with pumping device.She dont want it for any time !

So, you will have to tell her the truth, you are now going into your 30’s and your EQ is dropping, that is why you need to pump. I do water pump and that is the best way for me. My wife understands I either have to take the pill or be on the pump. I prefer pump, I get to kill 2 birds with one stone.

Show her 2- 3 pumping devices and tell her which one she wants you to use. Make it a team thing and not just about you.

I don’t have any EQ problem with 34 years old.And I do pumping for more girth.My wife say pumping make me irresponsible and horny :)

She accept it if I have EQ problem.But she say you don’t need more girth !

Probably a case for counseling. Sounds to me your wife’s very conservative to even call the pump an item for sexual deviant. I wouldn’t even consider a pump a toy since it can be a medical device for ED. I imagine she probably have other hang ups. I’d argue having it is a lot less worse than anything else you could be doing. Now I’m not your wife or your in-laws. I’d to try to confront it and ask is it really about you or about her? Does having it in the house makes her feel angry because of what. You’d be surprised it’ll reveal something that might not be even about you. If you’re not bold enough to fight for it, you might end up doing it behind her back and it’s going to be like sneaking cigarettes, or porn or any other bad habit. Are you savvy enough and what happens if you get caught. I’m not trying to be a bad influence, I’m just speaking out things going through my head if I’m in your shoes. You may have a policy in your marriage like we don’t keep anything from each other. Most women say stuff like this and truly believe it. I happen to not be that guy or believe in that camp. There’s always something we keep to ourselves no matter how small. We guys withhold our opinions so we don’t offend our wives, like does this dress make her look fat. She’s not God and we’re all only humans. I love my wife but as a man, I think there’s things only men understand. This is why TP exists. Most women hate dick pics. Why do guys do it, why we have a forum full of dick pics, a forum dedicated to penises. Obviously, women don’t have it and won’t relate in a capacity unless their born with it. Same thing we men won’t ever relate to child birth. Don’t even try to compare passing gall stones from a womans labor. But this is your marriage and your choices - somehow you’re going to have to figure out what to do with this pump thing. If this thing gives you joy, and you can plead your case like this is nothing different like riding a bicycle, you might as well be Biden’s legal counsel.

I’m sorry if I didn’t make it sound easier.

I think you understand my situation very good.I do pumping when my wife is not in home.exactly like sneaking cigarettes, or porn or any other bad habit :)

Also my erected dick is like stone and I don’t have any erection dysfunction.And I can not have any excuse for doing pumping.My only goal for pumping is 6 inch plus girth that my women say you don’t need that.my wife have religious believe too and this is my failure story !

There is a difference between keeping secrets and holding something private. While keeping secrets is unhealthy, I agree that it is not only ok, but healthy for married partners to have things they hold private from one another.

But this feels like it is no longer about privacy because she knows about it and has specifically asked you to stop. It may be that her reasons are rational: your size might be perfect for her and more girth might make sex less pleasurable, etc. Or her reasons might be irrational: concerned that you are too involved in a semi-erotic habit fixated on making your penis larger which could feel threatening to her in case it makes you wander toward other women, etc. Or some combination of rational and irrational.

But the unfortunate reality is that she has directly asked you to stop and went so far as to trash your equipment. To me there are only two ways forward that respect the marriage relationship:

1. You tell her that you understand her feelings but still want to engage. In this case you might try to convince her that she has nothing to fear, it isn’t a deviant practice and that her agreement is supporting something you feel is somewhat important. Depending on how skilled you are as a couple in conflict resolution, perhaps couples counseling is in order since the dynamic of the conflict and doing things like throwing away your device seems a little extreme, as does your insistence that you want to have a penis size she isn’t interested in. A counselor might help you deal with this issue in particular and help heal whatever dynamic is at work that is bigger than just the conflict over pumping.

2. You let it go and stop PE because the conflict with your wife is not worth it. After all, PE is best when it results in both partners enjoying your penis. If that isn’t the case, then why do it? Plus you already have a large penis. Even if her resistance is irrational, it is not a hill worth dying on in terms of a happy marriage.

If you continue in secret and she finds it again you will probably regret it since you will have gone from a privacy issue to a secrecy issue, and secrecy is toxic to a marriage, and continuing on without telling her is essentially lying.

Thanks for your advice .thanks a lot

I want to know how much pumping is need for get result. I only want 0.5 inch girth.For long term usage how much time I must spent for gaining girth!? I am a busy person and I want to know at least time to spend for pumping.Is 20 minute every other day enough for gaining girth !?

I’m still a new pumper so I’m not qualified to make statistics if half inch is achievable for 20 min. I try to pump daily in the morning for 15 min, and another 15 min at night. I only give myself a break when I feel sore. So more like a break on the 3rd or 4th day. I don’t get blisters…so far and I actually do incremental pressure. I think a few guys here said it took them a year under low steady pressure 1 hr to achieve an inch. So it’ll take a long time if you do the math. Since girth is your objective, another alternative is to edge and clamp. Or just edge. I think it works under the same principle as vacuum and you can edge every time you go bathroom then wear a cock ring to prolong the engorgement but if you work in the office, be prepared to walk with a boner. It will subside.

There is hard clamping and soft clamping. Hard clamping is with cable clamps where the sessions require you to get as erect as possible and then clamp pretty tightly for sets of no more than 10 minutes. The clamps are easy to keep stealth since anyone can purchase them at a hardware store and their purpose is to clamp electrical cords. So easy to explain unless you are discovered in the middle of a clamping session.

Soft clamping is also effective. You can use silicone rings, either cut sections of silicone sleeves or something like them, such as silicone toe protectors, and you put them on at the base of your penis and then get as erect as you can, then leave them on passively for sets of 10 minutes or less. Guys talk about using several of the sleeve sections or toe protectors stacked on top of each other to get the right level of constriction to cause engorgement. Just be sure to take them off every 10 minutes or so so you don’t cause damage to your penile nerves.

In the right pair of pants you can walk around the house without anyone knowing you are doing a girth exercise.

So perhaps using a different approach to girth training than pumping will be as effective without the potential for conflict with your wife.

+1 everything you said in your post is so true TD.

My dirty secret is that I have EQ (supposedly), I don’t really but I lost stamina between the ages of 30-34 and again 40-43 I lost it like basketball players lose their skill. You may not have issues with EQ because you do pump!!! Have you ever thought of that? Stop pumping for 2 years and tell me the difference. We already know the answer.

About girth, have you put on a cock ring? I can get around 1/4-1/2 girth with that. Try it on Wifey and see what she says. If she likes it then that gives you the go-ahead that you want to pump to get that extra 1/2 girth without having to use a cock ring. If she says she hates it, I don’t know any man who would then say they will continue no matter what she thinks.

My 2 cents

I am addicted to vacuum pumping

My wife confess that she hide my pump in home.After insistence of me she said pause pumping for 3 month.then after that maybe change my opinion about it !

But is there a light pumping routine with least spent time for increase thickness !?