Premature Ejaculation and edging

So I’m a premature ejaculator and have been reading on how edging can help. When I do it though, I always get into it until I blow. I will go to the edge and back about 10 times, but eventually I’ll ejaculate. I guess I just get caught up in it. Is this helping the matter at all, or does one have to stop completely and do it again the next day to gain control of ejaculation?

I think it’s more about paying attention to yourself, and finding out what gets you there, and how you can postpone that.

Becoming multi orgasmic will solve your problem.

Pat! Edging can be a lot of fun too. Imo, The trick is to get to the PONR as slowly as possible and then back off as opposed to getting there fast and staying on the edge. Getting there fast will not help your premature ejaculation problem at all.

Premature ejaculation can be due to both psychological and Physiological reasons. On the Psychological front, you just want to cum no matter what. I mean you really dont want to resist an orgasm. You just love wanking off. You end up cumming fast because at a sub-conscious level you love doing so.You have somehow programmed yourself to doing so. This is where edging can help,IMO. On the Physiological front, your body gets you there by releasing cetain chemical/hormones etc that cause you to blow early. In a case like this there is not much you can do but visit a doctor and take some prescription medicines. So, IMO its important to figure out what causes your premature ejaculation problem. Ask yourself some question. Were you always a premature ejaculator? Did you develop into being one over time? How long have you had this problem etc.

I have read a lot of guys here complaining how they have become premature ejaculators over a period of time. I, for example, could last long untill about 2 years ago. Then somehow I realized that I couldnt last long. I could blow in less than 5 minutes. So i went back to figure out what I must have done wrong. The answer to my problem was that I had wanked off so much that over time, I had trained myself to ejaculate early. Add to that the involuntary throbbing of my BC muscle which, IMO made me cum without much stimulation. I took note of my situation and started working towards it. Now, I have no such problem called premature ejaculation.

I’m sorry to make this lengthy and stray away from what you actually wanted to know. Yes, you could ejaculate. Infact, ejaculating once every 5-7 days can be good for the prostate, specially after you have edged. Im not sure if you should ejaculate everday. It doesnt serve the purpose if you keep blowing your load. Cut down on your urge to cumm. Enjoy edging.

Damn right

Masturbate a lot, helps you to know yourself better

Thanks for the replies. I’ll start slowing matters down when it comes to jerkin it. And I’ll look into being multi orgasmic as well.

It doesn’t work for everyone, be advised. For as many guys who recommend “The Multiorgasmic Male” by Mantak Chia, there are just as many who bash it and think it’s worthless so there ya go.

Being Multi orgasmic doesnt mean that you will solve your premature ejaculation problems.

Bird2- How does being multiorgasmic help premature ejaculation?

Men become multiorgasmic by taking sexual energy away from their groin and send it somewhere else, mostly through their entire body. Ejaculation happens when there is to many sexual energy in your groin, if you spread it through your body, you won’t ejaculate. You would orgasm, experiencing another type of orgasm, by mostly experienced as better but it will not trigger ejaculation. If you still ejaculate, you haven’t mastered the techniques.

I would recommend Barbara Keesling’s “How to make love all night (and drive a woman wild)”. She gives you a clear set of exercises and claims that any guy with enough determination can become multi orgasmic. I happen to agree with her.

Just wondering Bird, are you multiorgasmic?

yes, but not as good as I would like it to be. See it as a raw diamond that has to be cut properly. I am also multi ejaculatory, so cutting that diamond ain’t at the top of my to do list now.

Bird2 ! Tell us more about the techniques you practice.

I think the book you are talking about discusses Kegels and how to use them to become multiorgasmic??

Yes but it isn’t the only thing The kegel routine that I am doing is from her book, 3x20 kegels a day short (1-3 sec) and 2x10 kegels a day long (10-15 sec).

Other techniques that are discussed in the book are, among others:
- Learning to touch and feel.
- Noticing how aroused you are.
- Cycling through those arousal levels.

A nice thing she does is give you two exercises, one you can do alone and one with a partner. You always have to choose one, but there is a choice. Your girlfriend or wife can help you with the exercises, which is nice if you ask me :D ..

How would you compare this book to Mantak Chia’s “Multiorgasmic Male”? Which one was more beneficial to you?